If you’re vibing with a woman and like her, it’s only natural to want to check for the signs she is developing feelings for you. You should also check for these signs to ascertain if your friend is falling for you.
Perhaps you only want a platonic relationship with her and nothing more. These signs can help you know her true feelings concerning you so that you can act accordingly. If you like her, these signs would be your signal to make your move.
If you want to remain friends, you might want to erect an emotional barrier between you so that she gets the hint and moves on. These signs include;
1. She Touches You
Touch is a primary and most common way to communicate familiarity, interest and trust. When a woman touches a man, she subconsciously reveals that she feels comfortable around him and may even trust him with herself.
This is a no-brainer because women are usually very picky with whom they give their touches. If it isn’t family and friends, they rarely make physical contact and are irritated if the other person makes such a move. This is why it is something to watch after if she gets touchy-feely.
You can make nothing of the gesture until you notice she finds a way to touch you whenever you hang out. She may not even be aware that she touches you so often because it is her body’s natural way of expressing her feelings about you.
Notice and keep count of the times she moves to hold your hand, tap you gently, or put a hand on your shoulder. Those are signs she is developing feelings.
2. She Compliments You Often
Women are very emotional beings and would readily express interest in a man they like in the same way they want to be shown love. By default, everyone tends to love others according to what their love language is. For many women, words of affirmation rank high on their love language scale of preference.
This is why you’d find many women showing flattery on the man they like. One of the signs she is developing feelings for you is when she showers very perceptive compliments on you often. If she likes you, you’d likely receive her compliments regularly.
When you pay close attention to what she says, you’d see that these compliments are not just regular, surface poetry. A woman takes her time to coin compliments from the things she loves and appreciates in a man she likes.
3. She Smiles At You
Some people have a perpetual sunny smile on their faces naturally, but there is a lot more meaning packed into focused, full-blown smiles. When a woman makes it a point to smile at you every time you make eye contact or talk, it means she approves of you.
Seeing the guy she likes around is certainly a reason to be happy—no wonder she expresses that feeling of happiness and directs it towards him at every turn. Smiling at someone can mean several things, ranging from kindness and being likeable to pure interest.
At least on every level where a smile is readily offered, some goodwill is backing it. If a woman makes it a point to offer you a smile always, it strongly suggests that she’s thinking about you often and is one of the signs that she is developing feelings for you.
4. She Gets You Gifts
When a woman gets you gifts, best believe she’s into you. This is one of the surest signs she is developing feelings for you that you can find.
As stated earlier, people tend to love how they want to be loved by default. It becomes a conditioned behaviour to learn your partner’s love language and love them the way they want to be loved instead.
So while a woman is still getting to know you, she will express interest in you the way she knows how. Buying you gifts is one of them.
Of course, gifts are a favourite thing for women and are often at par with words of affirmation. Love languages like these tell them that their partner is constantly thinking about them because it is the only way they can keep coming up with new compliments and gifts. It is usually the thoughtfulness that counts.
When a woman gives you gifts, especially thoughtful ones, she’s practically hanging her heart on her sleeve. It’s left for you to decide if you want to explore that interest further.
5. She Has An Open Body Language
Women are usually tight-lipped with their body language around men they do not fancy. They know they can be very expressive and do not want the wrong man catching the wrong signal. But when a woman likes a man? She keeps an open body language, passing off all the signals she can without seeming pushy or desperate.
The fact that a woman is free around you doesn’t necessarily mean she is romantically interested in you. She may just want to be friends or have known you long enough to trust you to an extent.
However, if you have other signs of a deadlock with her, this can be one of the buttressing signs she is developing feelings for you. Basically, it is a weak signal by itself, but with other signs to back it up, it’s a sure banker.
6. She Hits You Up Regularly
Talk is never cheap with women. If they like you, they will definitely talk your head off or at least try to. It is definitely part of the signs she is developing feelings for you if she wants to hit you up to talk regularly.
Women only want to be in constant communication with something or someone that greatly interests them. Even with their friends with whom they have had a bond over time, there may not be such a desire to interact ever so often.
But the new guy that she likes? She will be looking for every opportunity to text or call him randomly. It might be a trivial reason, but she will make a mountain out of a molehill just to make that call.
7. She Acts Nervous About You
There is definitely a shy bunch among our ladies too. These ones tend to run in the opposite direction whenever their crush enters the room.
They want to be around you, of course, but their nerves always get the better of them. If a woman is acting all nervous around you all the time, it could be one of the signs she is developing feelings for you. The sudden show of nerves might be a dilemma for you, especially if she has been your friend for a while already.
Both of you might have been enjoying a wonderful platonic relationship, and now her sudden withdrawal and nervousness around her is ruining things. The thing is, this behaviour ranks strongly as one of the signs a female friend is developing feelings for you.
If you value your friendship with her, you need to speak frankly to her about this and find out her true feelings without being pushy. Then you can both decide what direction you want your relationship to take from then onwards.
8. She Doesn’t Seem Happy When You Talk About Other Ladies
Women like to be the singular romantic focus of any guy they are interested in. It frustrates them to see him giving the attention they crave to other women too. It doesn’t seem very flattering to a woman who wants you all to herself when you talk about other women.
She may not outwardly express her dislike for all your talk about other ladies, but she will definitely show it. She’d probably throw a tantrum or get easily irritated over seemingly trivial things that didn’t annoy her before. If her mood suddenly dampens every time you talk about other women, you might want to watch it.
On the other hand, some other category of women make it easier to decipher the reason for their irritation. A woman will rarely be direct about it, but she can point out repeatedly that you talk about women too much.
In addition to her foul mood, her attitude reflects the signs that she is developing feelings for you. Surely, no woman wants a man who feels equally affectionate towards other women.
9. She Loves Spending Time With You
A woman would want to spend all her time with a man she likes. She wants to talk to him about everything, get his input about the things she’s sharing and also see his open reaction towards her. She also wants to hear him speak about the things that interest him and make conversation with him about them.
She enjoys having him present with her and making memories of shared moments. When a woman is willing and eager to spend time with you, that’s one of the signs she is developing feelings for you.
She enjoys your company, whether it is a random conversation that sparks up while passing each other by or a planned meeting at a café or restaurant. This is a good sign if you intend to pursue a relationship with her.
10. She Defends You
The saying, ‘Love is blind’, is no cliché at all. A woman who has feelings for you would be blind to your flaws or at least choose to ignore them initially. She thinks so highly of you that she barely tolerates any criticism of you.
This is why she’d defend you at every turn when she perceives any ill feelings towards you or any form of criticism other people may offer. When a woman does this for you often, it shows signs she is developing feelings for you.
11. She Is Always Kind To You
It is a given that a woman who likes you will always be kind to you. Because of her feelings for you, she will go out of her way to show compassion and care to you. Even if she is naturally kind, that extra touch of care will be there, just to show her care for you above everyone else.
One of the signs she’s developing feelings for you is that she is kind to you, even when you didn’t do anything to deserve it. That is even more solid proof of the way she feels about you. Even when you make a minimal effort towards her at the initial stages, she concentrates on being nice to you and making you feel wanted and welcome.
The catch is often that you may return their affection at some point due to the kind acts and words they shower on you.
12. She Forgives You Easily When You Offend Her
This particular sign works for some people, but for some others, it does not. For the latter, if people they care about offend them, it is harder to forgive them and let go of the pent-up resentment. However, for other people, it is easier for them to forgive a person, mainly because they have feelings for the person.
This category of people makes excuses for their love interest even in the face of their flaws and mistakes. They easily overlook faults that would ordinarily have given them a pause if they were not romantically interested. If a woman waves off your misgivings so easily, it may be one of the signs she is developing feelings for you.
13. Your Opinion Matters To Her
Men are natural fixers, and women love to have their men fix stuff for them. They come to them with their problems and challenges, and a man’s natural inclination is to find a solution to whatever it is.
The same goes for ‘Advice’, A woman who seeks your opinion and applies it, displays signs that she is developing feelings for you. Even if she has already decided how to handle a particular issue, she’d still seek your opinion. You’d also be on her list to run to for help when she has no solution.
In addition, when you offer her your view, she values and treasures it. She’d also readily reference your opinion as usable advice whenever people mention they have similar problems. She might even refer them to you. The fact that she highly values your opinion is the catch here.
14. She Wants To know If You Have A Lady
A woman who likes you will naturally want to know if you are involved with someone else. She might not ask you directly, but she’d be interested in knowing. She may subtly chip in the question or tilt your conversation towards that direction.
It may just be pure curiosity that motivates a woman to ask if you have a lady, but that is rarely the case. If she asks, she’s showing signs that she is developing feelings for you. Otherwise, it wouldn’t be her concern about your love life, especially if you’re not even friends.
15. She Tells You Everything
One of the signs she’s developing feelings for you is when she tells you everything. As we stated earlier, women love to talk at length with people they care about, even more so with romantic interests.
They’d want to talk to you about virtually everything that happened during the day; at work, school, mall, grocery store, home, etc. Whatever event they feel is worth mentioning, whether particularly significant or not, they’ll talk your ears off with it.
Women are never like that with just about anybody. They only feel the pull to talk about everything with people they care about or have feelings for. Asides from these, they can be pretty tight-lipped about their personal lives. So if she’s giving you the whole showdown of her day-to-day life, it could be one of the hidden signs a woman is falling in love with you.
16. She Teases You Often
Women always love a man who can make them laugh. In that same light, they try to make the man they like laugh or smile, at the very least. Not every woman tells jokes like men do to make a woman laugh, so they can resort to teasing instead.
A woman who lovingly teases you and endearingly addresses your flaws and imperfections is displaying signs she is developing feelings for you. She could tease you about the slightest things; an odd quirk you have, a receding hairline, a funny memory from the past, your favourite pastime, etc.
Note that the teasing we speak about is not meant to insult, defame or degrade you. Such comments are merely derogatory and toxic and not flattering at all. While some harmless teasing can be fun and even a way of bonding, expensive jokes are a turn-off.
17. She Is Active On Your Post On Social Media
Is she up on your social media wall, liking and reposting your posts? Is she constantly going through your feed and leaving comments in the comment section? This could well be one of the signs she’s developing feelings for you.
If a woman likes you, she’s likely to go into stalker mode on your internet presence. She could be checking out your profile on Google, work info on LinkedIn, and even following you on all the social media platforms you belong to.
Some might even go as far as engaging nearly every post you made. The message she’s subconsciously or subtly trying to pass is that she likes you or has feelings for you.
18. She Is Vulnerable Around You
It takes a whole lot for a woman to share her vulnerability, even among her female friends. Vulnerability doesn’t occur naturally, but it is an attitude that has to be cultivated over time.
A woman would at least desire to share her personal life and secrets with a man she likes, even if she’s still sceptical about sharing. One doesn’t necessarily want to pour out their heart to anyone, but her feelings for you may propel her to do so, or at least share some snippets at designated times.
These are times when she feels she can trust you with more information than she revealed to you the last time. The main thing is that one of the signs she is developing feelings for you are manifesting, and you need to be extra careful at a time like this so that you don’t hurt her feelings.
19. She Wants To Know What You Are Up To
A woman who likes you would be very interested in your work. She’d always want to know what you are up to, and in a good way. This kind of attention can be flattering, but it can quickly become toxic if it becomes overbearing and pushy.
However, the kind of attention we are focused on is the healthy, endearing curiosity a woman displays towards a man she’s interested in. This shows that she desires to know more about you to have enough understanding to value what you value. This is a sign that a woman cares deeply for you and is also one of the signs she is developing feelings for you.
She can do this by often initiating conversations about your work and dreams. You can notice this in how she listens with rapt attention whenever you talk about the things that interest you. In future conversations, she refers to what you previously discussed in a way that shows she not only listed but put much thought into it.
20. She Is Flustered When Someone Suggests She Likes You
This sign is especially for all our shy women out there. Even though some bolder women would still be flustered if their feelings for you is mentioned, shy women would flat-out want the earth to open up and swallow them. The last thing they want is for you to discover how they feel about you, especially not from someone else.
They already get nervous just around you, so the added tension of your awareness of their feelings will make things awkward. These are signs she has feelings for you but is scared to speak up. This can also happen when the woman has been your friend for a while.
If she develops feelings for you, then there will obviously be a change in how she relates to you. She wouldn’t be as open as before, and when someone suggests that she likes you, she might be startled and even forcefully deny it. Being flustered when this happens is one of the surest signs she is developing feelings for you.
Signs She Secretly Wants You
If you have feelings for a woman you’re already friends with, you might want to know if she feels the same way too. In this case, you should look out for the signs she secretly wants you. These signs enable you to tell whether a woman likes you accurately.
One of these signs manifests in her interest towards you and the things you value. If she’s so attentive and supportive of you and always willing and eager to interact with you, she probably likes you as much as you do her.
Also, when she selectively communicates with you, she might secretly want you. Some women go the opposite way when they like a person and would particularly act aloof and mildly disinterested towards them. She could make it a point to speak more to other people than she does to elicit a reaction from you.
Often this is done to ascertain if you care about her by getting jealous at her selective treatment of you. This is also one of the subconscious signs a girl likes you because women often don’t consciously strategize before acting like this.
Signs She’s Starting To Catch Feelings
The signs she’s starting to catch feelings for you are not always obvious, especially when the woman in question is already your friend. She may withdraw for a bit when she starts to crush on you, but that is only to be expected.
Maintaining the normal friendship vibes you used to have before romance entered the scene is difficult. On the other hand, if your female friend becomes even more interested in your affairs than before, and displays more vulnerability and confidence towards you, then something’s up.
Also, if she was previously very free and open around you and suddenly clamps up and starts getting nervous, that’s another sign. These signs are not conclusive in themselves. However, when paired with the signs mentioned above, they can provide solid proof of a woman’s feelings for you.
Conclusion
Trying to figure out if a woman likes you can be frustrating and confusing. Her actions towards you may fluctuate, causing you to wonder what her true feelings are.
This article, ’20 Signs She is Developing Feelings’, is a successful attempt to categorize the behavioral patterns of women towards men they fancy. This article is for you if you’re such a man trying to know what a woman thinks about you.
The certainty that these signs provide is necessary to decide your next step after figuring out if she likes you or not. If the feelings are mutual, it will give you an idea of how to pursue her intentionally. If not, these hints in her behaviour towards you would give you clues about the best way to turn her down without hurting her feelings.
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